Alone at last...

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Many of my defining moments have come from spending time by myself. It allows my mind to settle and allows me to make sense of my thoughts, as they feel jumbled and hectic. Being alone really allowed me to take a moment to remember who I was. It’s very easy to lose yourself in a relationship, the expectations of our family, our society, politics and everything else that places upon us pressures and expectations we don’t ask for.

Happiness

Happiness is not something that can be gifted to you by another person. Feeling happiness, and being happy are different things. You can feel happiness while in the company of another, yet it can also be fleeting.

Healing

I avoided my emotions for so long. But avoiding emotions in all honesty, never made me happier. In fact, it sabotaged relationships and left me in extreme anger. The problem with having avoided my emotions for so long was that I also avoided healing. I use alone time now as a way to identify how I’m feeling about certain things and the time allows me to mentally resolve them; finding healing.

Less Apologizing

I always feel the need apologize to those around me for not wanting to make plans.

When you spend time alone, yoI find that solitude means you don’t have to keep apologizing for your actions. The most important thing is that you will realized that you don’t always need to apologize for your actions.

Relationships

Learning how to be alone serves you well when it comes to knowing what you and want and most importantly deserve in a relationship. Some people allow their partner to tell them what to feel, what to want and what to do, largely because that is what their partner wants and needs.

Being alone has helped me gain a better understanding of who I am, what I want from life and who I want in my life. I make better choices in terms of the people I give my time and my heart to.

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