Things I learned above love from a broken heart

There is absolutely no amount of love that can put two people on the same journey

Honest feelings and bad timing making for a painful combination. Sometimes you’re just not ready for each other. Every single person’s journey is different.

Ultimately the love we all deserve is a love that encourages us to grow, explore and make mistakes. The love we deserve doesn’t judge us, it accepts us for where we are and it nourishes our human experience. It encourages us to be better, to feel all of what it feels to be human. The love we deserve hold boundaries but stands by our side for the ride.

You can love someone and still need to walk away

I found this part the absolute hardest. I had always thought that once you found love, love would overcome anything. I couldn’t quite understand why I had to give up such a feeling after finally having found it.

You can only take responsibility for yourself

In life and in love, the only thing we can look after and initiate change in is ourselves. Fact. We cannot change other peoples minds and we cannot change other peoples journeys, no matter how hard we try. I’ve learnt the hard way on this one too.

Love doesn’t end when the relationship does

The bittersweet thing about loving someone, if it’s pure love and not just attachment, is that part of your heart will always carry that love for them. You know you will always love him, whether he/she is in your life or not because of how the love has shaped you.  I actually don’t want to deny myself of that love or to try and push it away. It’s still painful, even years later, but it’s already getting less and less.