FYI - ⚠️

FYI - ⚠️

there is an ongoing trend on TikTok right now where people are using this fake message effect/filter to pop up to prank their significant others.

It’s somewhat humiliating to watch. You can see the anger and pain in some of these significant others eyes. It’s disgusting that this is the mentality of monogamous relationships in today’s society. Why is it funny to portray fake/tainted messages, to get a reaction out of a significant other? If you ask me, it’s anything but funny or ok. It’s downright disrespectful.

I spent majority of the last year and a half gathering/finding evidence to defend myself in two separate relationships. I lived my life in a true and immediate defensive fight or flight stance to prove day in and out I didn’t do something, when I was constantly be claimed I did.

You can clearly see how easy it is for someone to make something as simple as a filter and for a fake message to pop up displaying a message in your DM/Inbox. Doesn’t that make you wonder what other types of social media, medical, screenshots of said conversations, email threads, dates/times of appointments or hell even court documentation someone can mess with to make something appear differently than it actually is.

Maybe I’m paranoid. Maybe this makes me look hypervigilant but when that’s all you know for so long, it’s hard to train your brain not to think that way. I feel this needs to be of a reminder that while it’s fun and games for some, when referencing narcissistic/mentally abusive relationships this is beyond devastating.

For those who have gone through this type of abuse just know, if there is availability for an abuser to paint you as the “crazy one” they will stop at no cost in doing so. This isn’t by any means saying everyone does this, just be cognizant in how someone is narrating and depicting their story.